Does life have to be this complicated?

Well, this is a sign that you’re not the only one who has always wondered.

Writing is hard, survival is hard, figuring things out is hard, growth is even harder. Literally everything worth trying has proved really hard at least for most people.

Even the seemingly easiest of things to some people like waking up on a monday morning to go to work, can be an entire hustle for another person.

I had always visualized my journey as I grow as one where I would live on the sidelines of hardships, pacingly walk in the footsteps of those I look upto to avoid making mistakes.

But reality did kick in and I had to learn that to truly find yourself and be the best version of it, you’d have to step out of the comfort zone, and honestly have the uncomfortable conversations with yourself.

We've all had situations where everything is stuck, with no idea on how to break through. We immerse ourselves in the torture that we are failures, that we are not good enough. The bitter truth about all these emotions is that no one is coming to save you, not from yourself and at least not from the hardships you encounter daily nor from the demons you're afraid of facing. The lack of money or the financial discipline, addictions, your attitude towards life, your mindset, your morals, you name it.

Until you’re tired of “how hard your hard is'’ that is the moment you’ll get up and shed off the self pity. You will effortlessly do something about progressing from one level to the next.

Be honest about what really makes the things you love so hard to do, break it down by identifying the problem and take the necessary steps in making a difference.

If it is something you're actually passionate about, let's say your marriage,a job or career that you’re chasing, a simple step by step breakdown that requires honesty is a great way to start at fixing these issues. Be realistic too, is your dream achievable?, if it clearly is not feasible then move on to adjust and see what really works for you.

The common notion that successful people don't dwell on their shortcomings but rather their strengths used to sound like mambo jambo to me for several years until I really took time to break down each word.

As a normal human being, you can’t be good at everything, for instance, if you’re a basketball player and you don’t run as fast, don’t dwell on it, you might turn out to be the best defensive player on the team.

Find and understand yourself, how do you envision a version of yourself that you are very proud of?, be honest about your triggers, your strengths and weaknesses, figure out what works for you and what doesn’t. Then take gradual steps to changing narratives of your life.